My Pinterest page has a board entitled "Feminine Flair." It's pictures are full of ruffles, lace, and lovely dresses - things that spell f-e-m-i-n-i-n-e to me. If I knew how to sew well and money was no object, I suppose I'd dress like this all the time.
The truth is, you'll often find me in a pair of blue jeans. I'm slowly building up the number of skirts in my wardrobe, but more often then not, the practicality of wearing a pair of pants with toddlers around the house and a sizable garden wins over a sweeping skirt. Some have asked why I believe it's permissible for a woman to wear pants, citing Deuteronomy 22:5 as a case for skirts only.
If the reason a woman must not wear pants is because they pertain to men, what do we do with Boaz, King Saul, and Aaron who were all cited as wearing skirts or cloaks as was the custom in Biblical times? Men of ancient Greece and Rome wore skirts, as did American Indian and Scottish males.
It makes me cringe when I hear people say, "That passage of Scripture doesn't apply to me because it's relating to a cultural issue of their day." The infamous cop-out may be over used, but there is still a danger of reading into a passage in order to make it suit our fancy. Deuteronomy 22:5 is not speaking about whether a woman should wear pants or skirts, but against transvestism - cross-dressing to appear as someone of the opposite sex.
The manner in how a culture dresses differs from one era and place to the next. What doesn't change is our responsibility to appear distinctly female. To pervert our designated sexuality (which God called very good) by blurring the gender lines in the way we dress is an abomination to the Lord.
In any case, modesty is the principal of female attire. There are women, even in the church, who wear skirts that are far less modest than any pair of blue jeans I have ever seen. That's not necessarily an argument for wearing pants to church, but a plea to switch from a hooker-style skirt where the outline of your thong is clearly visible, to something that speaks of gracefulness and humility within. (1 Peter 3:3-6)
Be it pants or a skirts, a woman's job is to dress like a female. There is room for creativity and a personal sense of style in God's design. Whatever you choose to throw on in the morning, may it be something that exudes those qualities of a woman which God calls very precious in His sight: gentleness, submissiveness, and a quiet spirit.

The truth is, you'll often find me in a pair of blue jeans. I'm slowly building up the number of skirts in my wardrobe, but more often then not, the practicality of wearing a pair of pants with toddlers around the house and a sizable garden wins over a sweeping skirt. Some have asked why I believe it's permissible for a woman to wear pants, citing Deuteronomy 22:5 as a case for skirts only.
“A woman shall not wear anything that pertains to a man, nor shall a man put on a woman’s garment, for all who do so are an abomination to the LORD your God."
If the reason a woman must not wear pants is because they pertain to men, what do we do with Boaz, King Saul, and Aaron who were all cited as wearing skirts or cloaks as was the custom in Biblical times? Men of ancient Greece and Rome wore skirts, as did American Indian and Scottish males.



In any case, modesty is the principal of female attire. There are women, even in the church, who wear skirts that are far less modest than any pair of blue jeans I have ever seen. That's not necessarily an argument for wearing pants to church, but a plea to switch from a hooker-style skirt where the outline of your thong is clearly visible, to something that speaks of gracefulness and humility within. (1 Peter 3:3-6)
Be it pants or a skirts, a woman's job is to dress like a female. There is room for creativity and a personal sense of style in God's design. Whatever you choose to throw on in the morning, may it be something that exudes those qualities of a woman which God calls very precious in His sight: gentleness, submissiveness, and a quiet spirit.















Amen...love this post
ReplyDeleteVery much enjoyed this post. "Whatever you choose to throw on in the morning, may it be something that exudes those qualities of a women which God calls very precious: gentleness, submissiveness, and a quiet spirit." Couldn't agree more with that statement. I have been struggling with this issue for awhile and I think that last statement sums it all up very well. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteGood clear biblical article. Thank you!
ReplyDeleteThis is interesting. It also reminds me of the argument of short hair verses long hair. I wear pants because they are practical and keep my legs from getting scratched and cut doing farm work, plus I'm very uncomfortable in skirts, instead of looking feminine I tend to look frumpy. But I keep my hair long and cared for because it makes me feel feminine.
ReplyDeleteThanks for your post. I too work on the farm can't see myself raking hay on the tractor with a skirt on or having to help my 80 yr old dad get under the hay baler and work on it with a skirt on. But I do dress up to go to church or to funerals. Had to run by the farm supply store on day after a funeral and the workers didn't know me at first all dressed up. So yes the way we dress does make a difference but it can be all modest. Thanks for the great write up.
DeleteThanks for posting. I too work on a farm I can't see myself driving a tractor raking hay or under a hay baler with a skirt on that wouldn't be modest.
DeleteExcellent points! Thank you for sharing!
ReplyDeletep.s. I love that skirt you posted!
Amen. I can now say 'I am dressing with a quiet spirit'.
ReplyDeleteLove the long ruffle skirt. I would gladly dress like that all the time. But with house work and such it isn't always practical. But would love to dress like that sometimes.
ReplyDeletegreat post! And the Verity Hope Dress....have loved it for so long! Beautiful inclusion! I, like you, would dress like that every day, if money and practicality were no object. Femininity is definitely an attitude, not just a wardrobe!
ReplyDeleteLove this. And I also love the passage Laura quoted above. So much truth. Thanks!
ReplyDeleteI think that women who wear pants, can be feminine as those who wears skirts.Modesty is a issue of the heart.
ReplyDeleteThis is such a great post! I have just recently started wearing skirts pretty much all the time. Not because I have to but because my husband likes them and I feel more feminine in them. I find that I am more productive and gentle when I wear skirts as FOR ME they provide a physical reminder of who I am in Christ. I do not think skirts are required though and what matters is our hearts towards modesty which can look different for everyone!
ReplyDeleteI have to AMEN that! I worked for a few years as a correctional officer in full uniform. I dressed like the men (we had no uniform differences for male/female), and basically had to act masculine as I worked in male max security state prison.
DeleteI felt masculine in uniform, and was discouraged from acting feminine at all, discouraged from wearing make up, had to have hair up and away from the face, etc. I had to physically be able to perform duties of men as well, from breaking up fights to defending myself (like tossing 180+ pound people over your shoulder without thinking about it, shooting shotguns and semi auto rifles at 2 legged targets if needed, etc). I was absolutely not feminine even tho was female. I could have walked around in dresses all the time at home and still not felt feminine, as it wasn't in my heart or mind. This was all before I got saved as well. My point is...if it's not in the heart as conviction, modesty in any form of dress won't be natural. :)
DeleteI love this! I love skirts, but like you with little kids and a farm it isn't always practical to go fix fence in a skirt. I could do it, but it would be more difficult and I'd rather have the extra minutes playing with my kids than having to walk to a gate because my skirt wouldn't let me climb the fence.
ReplyDeleteExcellent. That is exactly what the passage is speaking about, not about women only wearing skirts, etc. I love the flow of skirts and wear them as often as I can, but with two toddlers, a large garden and yard, and a few animals, it is often easier to throw on pants and such, still looking feminine. :) Thanks for having the bravery to tackle this issue so gracefully and lovingly.
ReplyDelete~Many Blessings~
Heather @The Welcoming House Blog
I allow both in the house here. I wear skirts/dresses most of the time, and have a couple pairs of sweats for when a flowing skirt is not practical. I grew up on farms/ranches and totally understand what it's like to need pants over skirts. I'm teaching my stepdaughter to dress lady-like, to look feminine, and ACT it... I figure if she learns to act like a little lady, whether she's in soccer attire, jeans, or a dress, that will help tremendously (and with a tomboy, a hard job). BTW LOVE the broomstick prairie skirt at the top of the post!! I've made those kind for my stepdaughter, and she gets in trouble at school for twirling in it down the halls lol.
ReplyDeleteMmm~ I loved this..thank you for sharing! I totally agree. I think feminine grace can be portrayed whether in a pair of pants or skirts...yes, I prefer skirts over pants because of the "feminine flair" you mentioned, ;) but I do believe it is possible to appear feminine in a pair of pants. :)
ReplyDeleteBlessings..thank you again for sharing~
Melanie
Where did you get that first picture from? I love the way she is dressed and I too would dress like that all the time...
ReplyDeleteLori, the pictures are from my Pinterest board. you'll fin the link in the first sentence. I love the outfit too! So pretty!
DeleteYou're right! It's all about modesty. There are some women I've seen in a skirt that would be much better off in a pair of pants, in the modesty department. But, in regard to the men wearing skirts, I encourage you to study that out. I used to think the same thing, until I read a study that said the men wore britches UNDER their robes. The women did not. Therefore, I believe that men always wore pants and women always wore robes, or skirt/dress type garments. Until WWI and all the change that ensued. Thank you for addressing this issue. I wish more women would feel the conviction to dress modestly and feminine!
ReplyDeleteVery well said! I agree with you wholeheartedly!
ReplyDeleteI agree with you. Pants were actually born out of modesty issues from my understanding of the history of how they evolved. But much more than that, I have a great circle of friends who have fled a very abusive church in our area, and they are reeling with the pain inflicted by the "list" of rules they were made to keep in order to keep up church appearances. They have always been taught in a round about way that only the unsaved women wore pants. Their leaders never emphasized that we are all to work out our OWN salvation with fear and trembling, which never leads you to examine your own heart for authenticity, but rather question everyone else's. A very dangerous situation indeed. Modesty IS a heart issue, but if we simply follow a system of rules, we can never really even figure out what that means or how to examine our own hearts next to God's Word and allow the Holy Spirit to move and work in our lives to refine us. I am of the personal opinion that this should never be legislated from the pulpit.
ReplyDeleteVery, very well put!! My mom and I have been discussing this lately; how modesty is the ultimate principle, and there are some instances where pants might be more modest than a skirt. Good post!
ReplyDeleteLove this post, Jacinda--reminds me of a booklet I read by Nancy Leigh DeMoss on modesty. Biblical guidelines surpass cultural mandates--modesty, femininity, and appropriateness are three principals I like to live by when selecting clothing for me and my girls.
ReplyDeleteI LOVE this post!!! My husband's grandfather is a minister and we've had a conversation about this very topic and he came the same conclusion. He actually said the Scripture could be talking about actual sex changes too...they just didn't know it at the time.
ReplyDeleteAMEN to you, sister!
Beautiful post Jacinda. very to the point and full of wisdome. I also do not believe the Bible preaches that women must wear skirts. This is why i still own pants. However, I wear skirts 99% of the time because I believe they allow me to be more modest and appear more feminine. Obviously I am very careful of the type of skirts I choose to wear, but it has helped me to appear fashionable and feminine while still hiding my shape.
ReplyDeleteSkirts also are the best way to keep cool in the summer:)
I agree wholeheartedly with your interpretation of that verse. My girls (now 21, 12 and 8) all grew up wearing dresses, especially to church. The more ruffles and frills the better. Now for school, the do mostly wear pants or capris (the two youngest girls are special needs and go to public school for the accommodations).
ReplyDeleteBut I wanted them to grow up knowing how to wear a dress/skirt because I think that the extra modesty that requires is something they need to learn their whole life. I too am totally against the skirt short enough (especially in church) that it makes me want to put blinders on my husband (and it makes me wonder where that person's husband is to let her out of the house looking like that).
The rule here, especially for the girls is two-fold. #1 - if you can't wear it to school and/or you can't wear it to church, I am not buying it. #2 - if Daddy says no, it's no. And they grew up with that their whole lives.
Of course, while I don't use a ruler to check skirt length, they get the length of their shorts and dresses check every year and if one of us does not like the length, they are gone, no discussion.
I am grateful that my husband really stands his ground on this since we have all daughters.
Jacinda, this is so timely. Pithy and filled with truth. I am in the early stages of writing on this, and it is apparent that the most important thing is what exudes from the heart. Thank you, sweet friend.
ReplyDeleteThank you Jacinda for this post... well said! I too love twirly and lace... I do wear my skirts ... but there are days with three boys under 6 that jeans are a requirement!
ReplyDeleteGod Bless! Monica
Love this! Written very well! :)
ReplyDeleteLove this. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this issue!
ReplyDeletebeautifully stated!
ReplyDeleteAmen. :-)
ReplyDeleteLove this post, i wear usually only skirts (yep even going horse back riding lol), but i def can see the point that some of the people who wear those skimpy skirts and dresses to church would be far better off with a pair of pants that covers it all.
ReplyDeletefound this from the mdoest mom link up. GREAT post! thanks!
ReplyDeleteI think you hit the nail on the head - the principle is modesty and femininity. The point isn't even to not attract any attention as some people have mentioned - just not the wrong kind of attention. I think that a woman dressed modestly and feminine with several kids in tow is going to attract attention no matter what she does!
ReplyDeleteI do wear pants, but I've been picking up more skirts here and there and I really love them. Tights or leggings underneath in the winter, and my new favourite thing for summer is bike shorts! My husband picked me up three pairs of black bike shorts for $10. Have sweaty thighs rub together is not limited to those who need to lose weight - I'm thin and it drives ME crazy! I love them because my legs no longer chafe together and it helps me feel a little more secure. If the wind catches my skirt or a toddler gives it a good yank or the baby grabs the hem just as you pick him up (which ALWAYS seems to happen to me...) then it's just bike shorts that are going to be seen, not panties!
Wow--nail on the head for me with this post! I don't have it all figured out for myself and I've always struggled with "just skirts" because I have seen skirts turned into this horrible institution of immodest trash. This is a heart issue and you explained it so clearly. Thank you!
ReplyDeleteI personally do not feel "feminine" in jeans....not only do men wear them but it leaves nothing to the imagination, as every curve is shown. For me it's important to dress in a way that would help a man not to stumble/sin. Do I think it's aniti-biblical to wear pants? Not necessarily. I believe it's a heart issue....we must all take it up with our Lord and seek His will.
ReplyDeleteAnd then to mix short hair with the jeans....I do believe that we are looking more like men. Just my two cents.
Unless you have zero curves and no chest, that is very inaccurate. And not everyone looks good w/long hair. Some people like me have super fine, thinning hair, and look horrible w/long hair. I'd rather have a hairstyle that suits me, then to have long hair because certain people think I need to have long hair in order to be feminine.
DeletePart of my concern is wearing *anything* that would require someone to look at my chest to see if I'm female. I don't think that means pants are out, but I do think it means that they should be a feminine cut and worn with a feminine top, to prevent the "is it a man or woman?" question with the answer being, "I don't know. Check the chest."
DeleteI wear skirts a lot as I do feel more feminine in them (and they are usually cooler in the summer!) but I still wear pants & (modest) shorts & I really appreciate this post. Thank you, Jacinda!
ReplyDeleteThank you Jacinda for this wonderful post! :)
ReplyDeleteI just LOVE this post! I am in the same place you are--just not enough skirts in my wardrobe yet for EVERY day wear. Plus, I'm just not totally used to them in all activities...so I do wear my pants (usually lounge pants) sometimes.
ReplyDeleteAs for the part that talks about being "distinctly female"--which I totally agree with--I also encourage you to dig into history a bit on this one. I did a Bible study with some ladies and we discussed modesty and what that means. We absolutely included Deut. 22:5 and talked about whether that meant specifically skirts and dresses rather than pants. Here is what we found in our studying:
Back in the 1940's, when Pearl Harbor was bombed, the men went off to war and that left many women (wives and sisters and daughters) to do ALL of the work in the jobs that the men had been performing--such as in factories. They did this out of necessity, since there were NO men to work. Well, when the war ended, and the surviving men returned, they expected things to go back to the way they were before the war......but some of these women had had a change of heart as they worked.
It was at that point, in at least OUR nation/culture, that women began to fight what had been the norm--where the MEN literally wore pants, where the MEN were the ones holding jobs, where the MEN were the heads of households. The women began to buck the entire system--to REBEL against the life that I now understand to be God's desire for me as His created female.
She didn't want to be at home keeping house or cooking meals or serving her family--she now wanted to be at the factory working a job. She didn't want to dress in her best, most feminine attire (a dress)--she now wanted to be "liberated" by wearing pants.
In other words, women at that time began wanting to live the lives of MEN. It used to be looked upon with DISGUST (the same word is used to define "abomination" in the Bible) by those men and women who still adhered to the order of the home, and the attire that had previously been expected in our culture.
So now...in my generation of (early) 30-somethings...we are so far removed from the "WHY" behind the look of our culture, that we fight FOR it--rather than diving deeper into why things are the way that they are to determine if they are God's true and perfect will (desire) for us...or if we are following after this world's fleshly ways.
I'm not legalistic about this either--I'd never tell someone else (even another Christian woman) what she HAS to wear...because Scripture doesn't say "only dresses, no pants". BUT...we definitely can look back into when things changed and why they changed...and I encourage that!!! :)
I grew up in a United Pentecostal Church - Wisconsin. My parents did not "make" me wear skirts. When I was in high school, I decided that I wanted to. However, my family didn't believe it was a SIN to wear pants and neither do I. My 2 brothers are in the ministry of UPCI - several of my nephews are too. A few had to leave the UPCI organization because they told new converts that it wasn't a sin to wear pants and to let God deal with their heart and any convictions they might have. This is how we all should live - "you will know them by their fruit." Fruit - actions - whether your "peeling" is a banana skin or an orange rind - the fruit is in the inside - that is what matters. Modesty is important, to be set apart is important, but one can have rotten fruit covered with the "right" peeling. Just me. Blessings from Ringle, WI.
ReplyDeleteBeautifully said! I so agree with you on this, and appreciated reading it. Thankyou.
ReplyDeleteToday is "grungie" cleaning day so here I am in my capri work out pants, after reading this Im headed to change clothes! lol Great post!
ReplyDeleteNice article :)
ReplyDeleteGreat article :)
ReplyDeleteGreat post. I love skirts and dresses, but also wear capris, jeans, long shorts, and gauchos because it's more modest to do some things in this attire rather than skirts and dresses. Thank you for speaking your mind on this subject. Blessings Kristy from www.kristyscreativechristianhome.blogspot.com
ReplyDeleteI started wearing skirts exclusively about a year ago at my husband's request. It is what he prefers to see me in. I was very hesitant at first but have made many unexpected conclusions this past year. Better friendships with females. more comfort, easier to decide what to wear for every occasion, and they are so easy to wear even chasing after my 7,5,2,and 1 year olds! I haven't found anything yet that I would be more modest in pants than a skirt. I haven't been too hot in the summer or too cold in the winter either.
ReplyDeleteSo grateful for you thoughtful comments! It is too easy to get caught up in the should-I-wear-skirts-or-pants thing...God sees the heart, He knows our motives. We would be wise to know our own motives, too.
ReplyDeleteAnd thanks for stating the true meaning of that passage in Deut. I know people who have used that as an argument for skirt-wearing...as you pointed out, that's NOT what that passage is about. We need to be very careful not to twist scripture to our own purposes, that is the path to false teaching.
Again, thanks for your insight.
Blessings,
Malaika.
http://www.momentsathisfeet.wordpress.com
This is a very good article, and a good read of the Scripture. I recently started wearing more skirts around and I LOVE it and feel that this is how the Lord has called me- not to be exclusively skirt only, but to dress like a woman and be feminine. For me, that means these skirts that make me feel beautiful and feminine. I still wear pants and capris plenty of times, especially while doing housework or yardwork!
ReplyDeleteBlessings,
Nicole at Working Kansas Homemaker
I love this post. :) Thank you.
ReplyDeleteA woman wearing pants is crossdressing,just like a man wearing a skirt,its all about are we gonna to it gods way or our way,common sense tells us we,re supposed to be different,the bible is not confusing, its us that make it,confusion is of the devil,sorry friends i refuse to lose my soul over a pair of pants,goes the same with all the gold & silver,& makeup,why are u doin it?Is it for ur own way or the bible way?The bible is to clear about this then to get confused about it.I also noticed very poor excuses for wearing pants,where theres a will theres a way.
ReplyDeleteIf your salvation is determined by the clothes you wear, I question who you are worshiping. I think you missed the point of the post. I'd consider actually finding out for yourself WHY scripture refers to specific kinds of clothes, jewelry and make-up, etc. until then you are walking in blind ignorance and judging others unjustly. If the honest history of scripture doesn't convict you, at least try to act like a Christian should- without judgment. No one is without sin, not even you Jen. Don't get all self-righteous just because you CHOOSE to wear skirts.
DeleteVery well said. Modesty and femininity are matters of the heart. They both show outwardly who we are inside.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for this post. I agree with you - women need to look like women, but that doesn't mean that you can only wear a skirt!
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I grew up in a church where it was taught that if a women wore pants she was not spiritual. In fact, I went to a Bible college where a professor once said he never met a spiritual women wearing a pair of pants. After my husband and I were married, we started attending a church where women wore pants. It was quite shocking to me to be honest. Getting to know these ladies I realized they were far more spiritual than most women I grew up with. I still mostly wear skirts to this day (maybe it was the brainwashing...lol), but I don't have a problem wearing pants when I'm hiking or cleaning my house, or things to that nature. I do believe however, after some research that the verses in Deuteronomy pertain to women going into battle, not crossdressing. Just my thoughts. Thanks for this post!
ReplyDeleteI wear skirts exclusively....even with 3 little ones and our homestead. I garden in skirts, clean the pig barn in skirts... I do it all in a skirt! :) But, that doesn't mean that I feel that ALL Christian women must wear a skirt. I personally feel that the issue is MODESTY. If you can dress modestly (nothing low cut, or too high cut!, and nothing tight fitting, including jeans and tops) then it's o.k. to wear what ever you'd like.
ReplyDeleteThe way you present yourself should be pleasing to the Lord, which in turn will be pleasing to your husband.
Thanks for this post. :)
I just gardened in a skirt for the first time this past week, and I've never felt so feminine in my whole life! I am personally more motivated to be a keeper of my home in a skirt than in pants! Probably just me being weird, but it's been a strange development for me.
Deletegod changes us from the inside out,i refuse to gamble with gods word,what he says i,ll will do to the best of my ability,his word is the same today,yesterday,& forever amen
ReplyDeleteHi there! Great post!
ReplyDeleteI have been a skirt gal for 15 years and never once deemed it to be the modest route, but only a feminine one according to my interpretation on Deuteronomy. As you mentioned, I have seen many wear skirts that make me sorrowful and sad and I have many godly friends who wear pants with hearts for God. But, to say that a skirt isn't practical in everyday living I have a hard time with. I have gardened in my skirts (all are to the ankle), played volleyball, played baseball, hiking the Grand Canyon, gone horse-back riding with leggings underneath in a fuller skirt, you name it… Just like the pioneer women of the past who did everything in their feminine attire.
If you are convicted that pants are acceptable then by all means, wear them! I know many a pant wearin women who will be in the kingdom! But please acknowledge that women have done plenty in skirts and dresses in the past than the modern day women will ever have to do.
And I love your ending! :) WE CAN ALL AGREE WHAT IS MOST IMPORTANT AND NOT TO BE TRANSLATED OR INTERPRETED DIFFERENTLY, we as women should all strive for "gentleness, submissiveness, and a quiet spirit."
Great post! I was wondering if you have the link to the first photo you posted of the woman in the two-layered skirt. I really love it and would like to try to sew one similar to it myself, but it would help to have the link, or the ability to see a larger version of it.
ReplyDeleteThanks! :o)
Amanda, If you go to my Pinterest page (you'll find the link in the first sentence), you find the picture under my "Feminine Flair" board. Click on the photo to follow the link. :-)
Deleteobedience to gods word is the key girls,i wore pants for yrs till 4 yrs ago, when bible salvation gotta hold of me,now is easy to obey gods word,the truth shall set us free,amen
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing =)
ReplyDeleteI was raised to only wear skirts and carried on that tradition with my daughters based on being feminine not a Biblical law. I, too, have seen skirts on others that makes me think they would be more modest in pants. The Bible teaches a standard of modesty and I'm a firm believer that He will show each sincere person just what that should look like to them. Great thoughts here today.
ReplyDeleteI do agree with your.post, but as an older woman I would like to point out women raised large families on family farms in long skirts and dresses for.thousands of years. It is an issue between ourselves and our God. Sometimes we have to submit to His will for us because He is God. A change is often required for more than we initially understand it to be for. When we submit in one area,He requires, often all the benefits and reason arent fully understood until later.
ReplyDeleteGREAT post!
ReplyDeleteI wear skirts/dresses only, but not for 'Biblical' reasons. Biblically, I agree with you 100%, my girls wear modest shorts and jeans as well as dresses and skirts.
The reason I wear skirts/dresses only is because my husband loves it. He never asked me to do it, but early in our marriage, I noticed he would always say " You look so pretty" whenever I was wearing a skirt or dress. I can go out and buy some jeans today and wear them and he wouldn't say anything. But he loves it when I 'look pretty', and since I love him, I do it! For him! <3
I enjoyed this post. Thanks for sharing! :)
ReplyDeleteIt would be a wonderful thing indeed to be able to dress like that everyday! But, life gets in the way and as you say, with little ones and a garden and a house to take care of, pants are more practical. I try to wear pretty colors and blouses as much as I can, but I see nothing at all wrong with pants, as long as they are not so tight we can practically see through them! True feminism comes from inside, like everything else. What is in the heart comes out in our lives. That is where our focus should be. I LOVE the lacy, frilly, feminine dresses, the hats and parasols and gloves, but it is not practical, so, God knows my heart and that is all that matters. Lovely post!
ReplyDeleteWell said! I am also slowly building up my skirt collection. I do wear jeans when I feel like what I am doing on that day will require it, but I am also slowly wearing skirts. My girls and I do our best to wear modest clothing, clothing that covers us. God knows our hearts and that is all that matters to me. :)
ReplyDeleteThe dress in the first picture is completely see-through - so how is that more modest than pants?? I find it ridiculous to tell a woman wearing pants she is cross dressing or sinning. There are children starving to death and people being murdered so it's silly to give people a hard time over wearing pants when there are much more important issues. What a woman wears is up to God, her husband and herself. What is right for one woman is not right for another, nor is it right to tell others to do as you do. Skirts are pretty but they are not convenient or comfortable for a lot of women. They should not be made to feel bad because of it. I see women every day who look lovely and very feminine in pants!
ReplyDeleteDid you even read the article? I never said pants were more modest than skirts, nor am I telling others to do as I do.
Delete"distinctly female" ..."something that speaks of gracefulness and humility within" Wonderful take-aways from your article. Thank you! - from a mostly skirt-wearing Mama who still loves her Levi's and who chooses grace over law :)
ReplyDeleteBeautiful!! And so very true!
ReplyDeleteWhile I do wear pants on a regular basis, skirts for the most part, are more modest. But with both pants and skirts you can get into the issues of too tight, and too short.
ReplyDeleteModesty is really an issue of the heart.
Thank you for posting this. It is a topic I have been praying through for some time now and this is the direction in which I am also feeling convicted. I am slowly but surely adding more skirts and dresses to my wardrobe. I do not feel lead to abandon pants altogether but rather simply make sure whatever I do wear is both modest and feminine and quiet, as one comment mentioned. Its somewhat new territory for me. I love girly things, but have spent years in more practical jeans and t-shirts, stilling that voice that likes to tempt me to put too much attention into what is trending. I have also started a modesty pinterest board and shared it with my daughters, with plans for sewing lessons in the near future in hopes we can have fun creating styles vs. being at the mercy of what our culture puts out and what we can afford. I do also believe that much can be accomplished in a skirt, just ask Michelle Duggar! :)
ReplyDeleteGreat article and beautiful dresses, but the first one is see through and the girl in it is obviously wearing dark underpants. As feminine as the dress itself is it now fits into the immodest category.
ReplyDeleteOoops! Guess I better fix that.
DeleteThat's embarassing :S
I'm a photog & I think it is the lighting not the dress... :)
DeleteIt's been years since I've worn pants regularly. Part of "coming out of Babylon" pertained to how I was clothing myself, whether I was being "hootchie" (as one friend puts it) with clingy fabrics, and was I revealing my shape in such a way that should be reserved for my husband? These, among other questions. It is good to present ourselves as Daughters of the King.
ReplyDeleteAs far as the scripture mentioned, there is another reading that could be interesting to people. Yes, it is about cross-dressing (something we see Paul dealing with in the first letter to the Corinthians and the subject of "head coverings" - note, he is NOT referring to a piece of manmade cloth!), but it is also about the heart issue of cross-dressing. A timely subject, considering the gender confusion we see being pressed upon us from all sides.
Hi Jancinda!
ReplyDeleteSo nice to run across you on the www! I'm so glad to see that your family is doing well and has grown since I got to see you with your first!! Lovely article - well thought out and beautiful pictures!
Say hello to your mom for me too!
Affectionately,
Lana
I started wearing dresses when I joined a Mennonite church 16 years ago. I tend to believe more that it is more feminine to wear dresses. Yes, there are cultures where men wore robes or kilts. When I think of the Biblical times, yes they wore robes, but even then the men's were distinctive from the women's. Women in America wore skirts until just recent history from my understanding, to be able to do things that were not as feminine. I believe by wearing pants women have lost some of their femininity. That and it leaves the body form open to view where a modest dress will hide it.
ReplyDeleteI no longer go to the same Mennonite church, I have been going to one that is not as conservative. There are very few women that wear dresses/skirts to church even, and even those that do don't wear them during the week. What bothers me more though is the lack of modesty in some of the clothes worn, whether skirts, dresses, shirts, or pants.
I am not living or working on a farm, but I do run after 4 children during the day. But to those who say it can't be done in a dress, I am wondering if they realize that conservative Mennonites and Amish do it all the time.